Moving from Self-Sabotage to Self-Support with Ashley Beaudin, Self-Sabotage Coach

Love Intently Podcast Episode 57

Ashley Beaudin self sabotage coach talks about healing from trauma and disrupting the patterns of self sabotage on the love intently podcast

“There's nothing that you could go through that someone else that hasn't already walked through. There is no shame too deep and no flaw too horrible.” -Ashley Beaudin, Self-Sabotage Coach

Ashley Beaudin grew up very soft spoken and shy, often feeling like she was talking but no one was hearing her. This, and other not-so-obvious trauma, lead to self-sabotaging behaviors, such as not taking care of her hygiene and losing her teeth, and struggling with a sex addiction. It was so difficult for her to find support for her sex addiction, but she never gave up on herself. She began to create her own recovery program hiring a therapist, recovery coach, and implementing a non-negotiable self care routine. In the process, she learned so much about trauma, coping mechanisms, and ways that we can support ourselves and overcome the behaviors that are keeping us stuck. Now, she shows up boldly and vulnerably to share her story and hold a safe space for women to feel seen and heard through her experiences.

Ashley Beaudin is a speaker, community gatherer and heart encourager who inspires humans into emotional wholeness, real community and bold leadership. She is the visionary behind The Imperfect Boss; an international movement that shifts imperfections into superpowers and helps women lead with their whole selves. Ashley’s campaigns of empowerment and vulnerability have reached millions of people over three years and she has been featured in publications such as Brit + Co, Mind Body Green and Futurpreneur.

In this episode of Love Intently, Ashley bravely shares her self-sabotaging behavior, where it came from, and the exact framework she uses to self-soothe and self-support. She gives amazing advice on how to set boundaries with yourself around sharing vulnerably on social media so that you don’t end up causing yourself more pain, and she provides specific examples of how she works with her clients to help them see their cycles and disrupt them.

Ashley Beaudin talks about trauma, healing, and breaking free from self-sabotage cycles

Key Discussion Topics

Her life changing season when Ashley realized she had gifts to share with the world, and how she broke out of her shell
Her journey from extreme self-sabotaging behaviors and sex addiction, to getting the help and support she needed, to now being a beacon of light for others who are in need of healing
What trauma led to her sex addiction, and how some trauma’s are not so obvious
The spark that led her to starting Imperfect Bosses
What boundaries she sets for herself to protect herself from oversharing in an unhealthy way on Instagram
The exact framework she used to go from self-sabotaging to self-supporting and that she now uses with her clients
The moment she recognized that she was beginning to truly heal from her trauma
A lot of coaches will go straight to talking about shifting mindset, but there’s one thing Ashley helps her clients do first before going to this stage that leads to true healing
Why her 2 year old niece is the biggest inspiration in her life, and really taught her even more how to love herself

“I really try and focus on how vulnerability disrupts shame. It disrupts shame for me, but it also disrupts shame for others.”

Ashley’s Three Truths

Do whatever you can to create a life where you don't let your gifts stay inside.
There's nothing that you could go through that someone else that hasn't already walked through. There is no shame too deep and no flaw too horrible. Whenever you feel alone, just remember you're actually not.
Do the inner work. It'll be better for you in how you feel in your life, it'll change your relationships, it’ll change how you get to show up in business and your career.
“Don't waste one more day walking around with those wounds or fears or shame.”

What does Love Intently mean to Ashley?

“Fully seeing people in their humanity, but also in their extravagance. Being able to hold space for the light and the darkness that exists in every human being.”

Connect with and Support Ashley Beaudin

Website: https://www.ashleybeaudin.com/

Ashley’s personal/coaching Instagram: @ashley.beaudin

Imperfect Bosses Instagram: @imperfectbosses

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