Why Unconditional Love is One of the Best Defenses Against COVID-19 with Helen and Harville Hendrix, World Renowned Couples’ Therapists and Bestselling Authors
Love Intently Episode 61
Why is it that things are so great in the beginning stages of falling in love, but then can turn so sour?
Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. are internationally-respected couple's therapists, educators, speakers, and New York Times bestselling authors. Together, they have written over 10 books with more than 4 million copies sold, including the timeless classic, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples. In addition, Harville has appeared on the Oprah Winfrey television program 17 times!
However, Harville and Helen are no strangers to marital problems. In fact, their marriage almost ended before they began to practice what they preach. Their marriage is now stronger than ever, and they can save any marriage with their simple methods.
We are honored to have Harville and Helen on the Love Intently Podcast for a second time! You can listen to their first episode where we go more in depth into their marriage journey and struggles here.
For their second time on the Love Intently podcast, we discuss:
The psychology and science behind who we fall in love with and why
The science behind why the best defense against COVID-19 is actually unconditional love
The three simple methods that are proven to save any marriage
How these methods can also be applied to strengthen your children’s emotional resilience
How to expand the application of these methods to outside of our homes and into the world at large to create safer, more understanding conversations with people of different races, religions, sexual orientations, cultures, etc.
“Safe conversations are talking without criticizing, listening without judging and connecting beyond your differences.” -Harville
The pivotal learning Helen realized that saved their marriage
“One day I realized Harville doesn't want me to know him, what Harville wants is for me to not know him and to ask him questions.” -Helen
How you can work with Harville and Helen through couples’ workshops or getting trained to teach others how to have safe conversations
“We found that every couple, no matter how long or short they've been married, have the same issue. They don't know how to talk. Our workshop helps them learn how to talk.” -Harville
Best Relationships Advice
“Be sure you are safe for your partner. And one of the ways that you get safe is to listen with such clarity until you discover who your partner is, and it changes you.” -Harville
What Does Love or Love Intently Mean to You?
”Martin Buber wrote a book called I and Thou, and his book was about how most people treat other people like an “it”, that other people exist to serve them. And that love can begin to flow into the space between two people when two people shift and stop treating each other as an “it”, and if they can both treat each other as an “I and Thou” that's when love floods energetically into the space between them.” -Helen
Connect and Work with Harville and Helen Hendrix
Save Conversations Facilitator Trainings: https://harvilleandhelen.com/facilitator-trainings/
Couples workshops: https://harvilleandhelen.com/couples-workshops/
Main website: https://www.harvilleandhelen.com
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