Busting the Common Fairytales that Hold us Back from Finding our Soulmates with Dating Expert Crista Beck [Podcast]
“It’s very important to see dating as something that happens over time. You’re allowing time to let the connection unfold.” -Crista Beck
Are you wondering if you’re ready to get back out there and start dating again? How do you know if you’re ready? How do you become ready?
Crista Beck, The Love Radar, is a dating expert based in Austin, Texas, who teaches single people who are seeking a healthy and long-term relationship how to attract quality dating partners, increase their confidence, and take the actions necessary to have the love they deeply desire. She is regarded by her clients as a “romantic healer” due to her holistic and conscious approach to finding a meaningful relationship in the era of hookup culture and online dating.
While Crista coaches both men and women alike, she specializes in helping smart and successful single people who want a secure relationship, but struggle with the fear of picking the wrong partner again. Through her one-on-one and group coaching programs they can stop struggling with the overwhelm of dating and finally feel at home in the relationship they always wanted.
Actively building her dating advice and coaching business since 2009, she has played an active role in the love and relationship industry, advising and helping thousands of single people around the world. She is the co-creator of the Jumpstart Your Heart Process™, and creator of the Sure-Fire Dating Formula™ focusing on helping people identify and release their hidden barriers to love, become the kind of person that is open to love, and feel empowered and at ease on the dating scene. In this episode, Crista lets us in on her best tips that she shares with her one-on-one consulting and group coaching clients.
The wrong question most single-and-looking people ask
One of the most common questions Crista gets is, “Where do I go to find my soulmate?”, as if there is a magical land where all the perfect single people roam.
That would be nice, but we’ve been fed this fantasy from Disney and Hollywood that love will happen magically. When you meet that special someone, your eyes will lock, you’ll be “swept off your feet”, and it will be love at first sight. You’ll just KNOW.
In reality, this only happens for a REALLY small percentage of people, and for most of us, dating is a sorting process. Getting to know someone takes time to make sure they are in alignment with what you are creating for your future. Most people have no idea what they need and want in a partner, so they end up wasting tons of time, money and energy dating, getting exhausted in the process.
This is why, over the past few years, Crista has perfected her five-week Dating Compass™ process. This is a deep introspective process that grounds and focuses her clients. They come out of the experience with a changed mindset, a clearer understanding of how to connect deeply with others, and four key characteristics that they need and want in a person, such as: passionate, hardworking, kind, spiritual. Her clients then use these as their “compass” to guide them on the dating scene and produce the results they want in their dating life.
The “I’m too busy to date” lie we tell ourselves
Crista is still often confronted with this “I’m too busy to date” story that single people tell themselves as the reason why they aren’t having success.
“This is actually a way to keep themselves distracted and to avoid a negative experience they haven’t processed. A bad breakup. A divorce. We all have different ways we avoid feelings, like watching Netflix, having a lot of sex, and for many people it’s making themselves too busy.” -Crista Beck
This is why part of what Crista does with her clients is to help them connect with their “inner knowingness”, meaning, to become more in tune with themselves, their emotions, and discover what they truly want in their heart of hearts.
“We need to deal with our heart at the heart level. We’re not trained in our culture to deal with breakups in a healthy way. If people don’t heal themselves, it will control them, until they do the work to free themselves of those feelings and thoughts they were imprinted with.” -Crista Beck
Listen to the full episode to hear Crista’s best advice and answers to questions like:
How do you know when you’re ready to date?
How should you approach dating online or on an app?
When do you say yes to a second date?
What’s the number one complaint men have about women and women have about men on dates?
What’s the best type of place to go on a first date?
How can I know if they’re the one?
How can I communicate that I’m open and available?
Crista Beck’s Dating IQ quiz
Crista also wants to share her Dating IQ quiz with the Love Intently listeners!
If you want to…
Take your dating life to the next level and find a great partner
Set your love life up for success
Know what to avoid so you don't make common mistakes on the dating scene
Take Crista’s four-minute Dating IQ quiz and predict your success in finding love AND learn secrets to having a fulfilling dating life, so you can experience fun, connection, and passion both day–to–day and long–term.
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Links and Resources
Dating IQ quiz: www.DatingIQquiz.com