Rewrite the Rules with Alex Starr<br/>

About Alex:

Alex Starr is a former wildland firefighter and now the host of the Rewrite The Rules podcast, which is about sharing the stories of those who have changed what they thought was possible for their relationships, work, and life. Alex has also authored Rewrite the Rules: An Unconventional Way to Build an Intentional Life, a book that provides a framework to break free of the status quo, trust your instincts and live a life you choose instead of the one you have been told to live. In this episode of the Love Intently Podcast, Alex is here to teach you how to rewrite the rules and also shares his experiences.

Alex believes…

Alex believes we all have to let go of who we think we are and who society wants us to be to become who we indeed are. (“The society is ready to provide you with whatever life you choose. They are also very happy to give you the template of life that you don’t choose.”) After getting done with college, Alex lived a life with alcohol, girls, parties and kept on wondering what he’s going to do next, which internship and job he’s going to secure. This was the template the society gave him. He later worked as a firefighter, traveled but just didn’t find happiness.

Alex says he just didn’t realize that there are different ways to live a life. Therefore, he wanted to create a guidebook and framework he could have used when he was 22 to teach others about different ways to live. (“There’s a huge world out there, and there’s a lot of different ways to do things.”)

Some of the rules Alex has rewritten in his life are relationship-based. He promised himself to be as single as he can be between 22-28 years. (“What I told myself is I don’t want a relationship. I want freedom, autonomy. I don’t want commitment.”) However, he later met his fiancée and had to rewrite the rules.

In this episode we discussed:

About his book and why it has been an important model in his life. (“I wanted to create a guidebook and framework I could have used when I was 22.”

Rules he has written in his life. (“What I told myself (between 22-28) is I don’t want a relationship. I want freedom. I don’t want commitment.”)
What made him rewrite his relationship rule about being single. (“I was ready. My fiance also didn’t pressure me to do anything.”)
Finding happiness. (“Nature triggers finding the truth within yourself. You only find it when it’s quiet by yourself.”)
Why people don’t want to love. (“Life and love is a very heavy load. No one wants to confront the dark side of others.”)
Defining fear of failure. (“Fear of failure is the biggest reason people don’t go on things they want and instead run in the opposite direction.”)
Telling the difference between instincts and fear (“Deep down, everybody knows the whisper. We just don’t give ourselves enough space to know what we already know.”)
What he wishes people knew about him. (“A lot of people didn’t know that I could write.”)
Truths about life and love that he lives by. (“judge people by their intentions sometimes instead of their actions. Embrace and accept feelings. Learn like you live forever and live like you are going to die tomorrow.”)
Best relationship advice. (“Temporary setbacks and emotions don’t always signify long-term detriment or success. If you’ve committed, you just choose them over the others.”)
What love intently means to Alex: (“Directing life and love in the direction of your choice as opposed to society.”)